Change.

To blame is a regular, daily occurance in our generation. We cannot stand the thought of admitting our own wrongs or the feeling of negative perspective from others. Instead of accepting and trying to change the bad habits and qualities of ourselves, we lay the blame on everything and everyone else. Change is not inevitable; it is simply over-looked. If we all take a step back and look at the big picture, I believe change is possible, and most importantly, needs to happen.

"Others don't like us for who we are, so shame on them," is a much too common thought among young adults. By no means am I trying to persuade everyone to make a 360 degree change of who they are. However, what is it, what qualities, about us, lead other to not want to be around us? It could be a habit of telling small lies thta seem like no big deal to us, but perhaps your tall tales have led others to believe they cannot trust you. Friendship is an important part of our lives and with friendship, comes trust. The only person who can change this flaw is yourself. Blaming others is an easy excuse that leads you to a dead end road.

The way we perceive others is the same way they see us. Noone wants to be around a high school drop-out that can't seem to maintain a job and always needs to borrow money. Being successful amounts to being a likeable person. Change your bad habits and invest your time in becoming successful.

However, do not duck your head under the covers and let everybody walk all over you. Stand up for what you believe in with your head held high. Letting others take advantage of you is noone else's fault but yours. Confidence is attractive; it is a trait that we all look for in peers and relationships. Also, admitting we are wrong shows that we do not hold too much pride. Respect is gained when respect is given.

--Meg